I am really hard on myself. I would say that I am my worst critic -though not my most imaginative one (saving that story for another day). I didn’t even know how bad I was to myself until some people I didn’t know well, pointed it out to me. So I decided to do something about it. I started taking notes about what I liked about myself, what I wanted to change, and what things I could live with. It’s been a considerable journey – I filled up a fairly large notebook with my findings.
Once the notebook was filled, I kind of forgot everything I put in there – so I started condensing the notes and writing the good stuff onto post-it notes. Then glued them to where I would see them. You know that I already have a thing about lipstick mantras – if you don’t know, I write mantras and words of wisdom in lipstick on mirrors. Sometimes they stay up for months at a time, sometimes they last for about 10 minutes. They serve the purpose of a quick reminder to check my attitude. But the post it notes – they are reminders that I’m fairly awesome, or need a little work to get to awesome depending on where the note is located. For instance the note in the bathroom reminds me to compliment my nose – because someone once told me my nose was globular – and Ive kept that with me, and now I’m a tad insecure about it. But enough about my nose.
On my music stand is a reminder of how far I have come in a year. It has a date on it only. Next to it is another note that tells me I can accomplish whatever I want as long as I go slow. And behind my chair, plastered to the wall is another post-it that says “communist”. Its not about my political leanings. Rather, its to remind me of time when I was a fierce performer, and that I could steamroll any challenge that came my way. It’s there to tell me that I am on my way back.
I have post-its in every room. I change them according to what I need to hear. They are not to do lists (those are for the phone), They are simply a nudge to remind myself that I am pretty great – and that it takes a little work to be come truly excellent.
Do you do anything like this to give your mental health a boost, or a kick in the pants – depending on what you need in the moment?